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“…don’t you put me on the back burner You know you got to help me out…” {Loving someone with anxiety}

Posted on Friday, March 10, 2017

All of us have anxious times. We all know the feeling when your stomach knots up and you can’t get back to sleep because of the thoughts that are buzzing around in our brains. For most of us, we can self-talk or distract ourselves out of the pit and keep on moving forward. But for other people it really is not as simple as that. Most of us have literally no idea what living with anxiety is like. A few years ago I did a course about living with kids with anxiety and it really changed my life. It changed my perspective and hopefully my reactions to others.

In case you don’t know what I’m talking about, here’s a really great description I found here,

Anxiety is debilitating. It feels like a constant heaviness in your mind; like something isn’t quite right, although oftentimes you don’t know exactly what that something is.

It feels like acid in your stomach, burning and eating away at the emptiness and taking away any feelings of hunger. It’s like a tight knot that you can’t untwist.

Anxiety feels like your mind is on fire, overthinking and over analyzing every little, irrelevant thing. Sometimes, it makes you feel restless and constantly distracted. It feels as if your thoughts are running wild in a million different directions, bumping into each other along the way.

Other times, it makes you feel detached, as if your mind has gone blank and you are no longer mentally present. You dissociate and feel as if you have left your own body.

Anxiety feels like there is a voice in the back of your mind telling you that everything is not okay, when everything in fact is. Sometimes the voice tells you that there is something wrong with you and that you are different from everybody else.

It tells you that your feelings are bad and a burden to the world and that you should isolate. It makes everyday tasks, such as making simple decisions, incredibly difficult.

Anxiety can keep you up at night — tossing and turning. It’s like a lightbulb that comes on at the most inconvenient times and won’t switch off. Your body feels exhausted, but your mind feels wide awake and racing. You go through the events of your day, analyzing and agonizing over every specific detail.

I think the main thing about loving someone who struggles with anxiety is, not to take it personally. It is not about me, what I’ve done or not done. It is something that is internal in a person that they feel and it feels completely legit to them (even if part of them knows that it is irrational). This is not a situation where patting someone on the back and saying it will be ok will work. And the other thing is that you might think the other person is angry or upset with you, that’s not you, that’s the anxiety talking. Recognising those times is a game changer if you love someone with anxiety.

Don’t forget that your anxious friend, family member or lover is still the beautiful, amazing, kind, creative person that they always were, but the anxiety is something extra that they have to deal with. They are still the person that you love. They might seem angry or snappy or withdrawn or like they don’t want to be with you. But that is not true. They do want to be with you they just can’t deal.

So here is my promise to those that I love who struggle with anxiety (you know who you are), I am here for you. I am not going anywhere. I will always return your message or your phone call. I will keep on checking up on you. I will worry about you when I am not with you, because I love you and not because I feel like I have to. I understand that sometimes you need space and sometimes you need someone to be there. I’ll try and respect that, but if I push that boundary, it is just because I want to be with you. I’d like it if you could be honest and tell me when things are bad, but I’ll probably figure it out. I love you for you. We will get through this together. OK? Continue reading →

Classic Blueberry Muffins…

Posted on Friday, March 10, 2017

Today I’m sharing my Classic Blueberry Muffin Recipe.

With autumn now here they are fabulously delicious morning,
or afternoon tea treat.

The recipe makes twelve small muffins,
or if you use the bigger paper cases as I have done today,
the recipe will bake eight.

They are FULL of berry deliciousness…In a butter cake muffin base.

There is nothing like a good old fashioned classic…
and that’s exactly what these Blueberry muffins are!

You will find a printable recipe HERE.

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Home Matters,

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GOTTA CATCH ‘EM ALL

Posted on Thursday, March 9, 2017

The premise behind Pokémon defies reason, and I’m not talking about the adorable creatures that battle willingly on behalf of their trainers for sport. Nor am I referring to the fact said adorable creatures have a laudable command of the English language.

I’m talking about the shows main protagonist, Ash Ketchum, the plucky 10 year old who leaves home to become a Pokémon Master and no one bats so much as an anime eyelash. Did I mention he’s 10?

I’m early 30’s and I still can’t fathom setting off into the sunset armed only with good intentions and an animal side kick who has all the predictability of a hairdryer submerged in a bath tub.

When Pokémon first hit our shores sometime in the mid-90s – my siblings and I were caught up in the craze (I can still recite more versus of the Pokémon Rap than is appropriate).

One of the great joys of parenthood is reliving parts of your own childhood.

So when Pokémon Go was released last year, that little child inside me did a dance. I could finally realise my dream of “catching ’em all”…as an…ahem…parental supervisor of course.

Before Gabby arrived I took Will in to the city on a Poké-Date.

We started in Devonport, catching the ferry across to Princess Wharf. Once city-side we stayed in a fairly narrow radius. We walked. We talked. We gathered Poké-stops and caught Pokémon.

Say what you will about Pokémon Go but it bought out the best in people. Kids walking past us, cheered him on and passed on tips. It did help that he was like a kid on Christmas – fist pumping, and screaming at the screen.

Here’s some pics from our adventure.

Just for the record. He did look up. It’s just that the only time I was allowed to take pictures was when he was catching something exciting.